It's Saturday afternoon and my friends are partying at the pool drinking Rosé and eating vodka gummie bears. I want to party. I want to eat vodka gummie bears. But doing so would require something that has held me back for far too long...
It means different things for everyone. For me, it simply means organizing my time for more focused work and output. It may very well mean something completely different for you.
Success is challenging enough with competition coming from every angle. Which makes defeat easy if you're not focused and push through the tough times and temptations. I've made the decision to stay focused on what needs to be done for myself and my future.
I choose writing today at this moment because I believe what I'm sharing is important. I hope it inspires you.
It's a tough pill to swallow, but as I look back on my life and journey I can only recall a few instances when I successfully achieved a goal. Further reflection helped me understand why:
- I wasn't setting clear goals for myself. I wasn't writing goals down or checking my progress, ever
- I was rarely doing deep, focused work
- Lack of patience
I'm assuming there are others out there that share in my reasons above and suffer, in a sense, throughout life because of them.
If you're one of those people, you're obviously not alone. Age doesn't matter and your past habits don't matter. If I can change, so can you. Here's what I've done to get rid of the Self-Sabotage demons:
- I set one year and 90 day goals
- I WRITE THEM DOWN
- I READ THEM DAILY
- I eliminate ALL distractions and try to bang out work for 4 hours
- This is still challenging for me to this day, but I'm getting better
- I've come to terms with the fact that everything good takes time
- Tony Robbins says, "Most people overestimate what they can accomplish in 3 years and underestimate what can be accomplished in 10."
HOW YOU CAN CONQUER SELF-SABOTAGE
TAKE MORE ACTION, MORE CONSISTENTLY
I have a vision for my future and what I want out of it, but more importantly, I know what I have to do to get there. Take action. That's what I'm doing this very moment. Instead of being gummie bear drunk, I'm sharing my story with you and hopefully impacting your life in some way.
SAY F*** YOU TO FOMO
FOMO: Fear-Of-Missing-Out. I have it and so do you. But I've gotten better at dealing with it because that's the first step in the path to success. You have to take action, bare down, and do the work, whatever that may be. Choosing to play instead of work is self-sabotage at its finest. Every negative feeling you have- guilt, depression, boredom, trickles down from choosing the wrong activities when you really, really need to be working instead. The opposite is also true.
TRY CHOOSING WORK INSTEAD OF PLAY
You'll gain confidence, feel better about yourself, and begin getting into the habit of better decision making. The building blocks will begin stacking higher and you'll get closer to your goals. It's that simple. Just do what you have to do to get shit done! I've personally found that working when others are playing helps me do more deep, focused work.
Changing behaviors isn't easy, but you can do it. It begins with self awareness...
"Insanity: doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different result." - Albert Einstein